Self-discovery is an essential part of gaining confidence and peace in your life. When we take the time to really get to know ourselves, it can be one of the most rewarding gifts. The scope of personal development and growth is broad, and the only way to improve is to understand who you really are by identifying your strengths and weaknesses. Unfortunately, self-discovery does not come easily to everyone. Below are 5 tips that can start you off with your own discovery process.
Grab a sheet of paper and a pen and be honest with yourself as you jot down your answers.
1. Write down your biggest dreams, goals and aspirations. List them in order of importance, even if you have to rearrange the list several times. You might even find that some are of equal importance, and that’s great! That just means you have many important dreams. After you’ve finished the list, give it a good read, because these represent the most important things in your life.
2. Face your fears. Just as you’ve created a list for your most important goals and dreams, you’ll make one of your biggest fears. Once you have this list, make it a new goal to do one thing that challenges one or more of these fears every day. Start small, you don’t want to overwhelm yourself. For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, try talking to small groups of people here and there. Learn what methods of facing these fears work best for you and take note of them. Apply them to new fears that come up in your life.
3. Try self-discovery activities. These include anything that touches your spiritual side such as going to church, meditating, yoga or simply going for a run. From my own personal experience, I can tell you that physical exercise has been beneficial not only to my body but also to my mind. If you’d like to change anything about your physical self, such as your weight, talk to your physician before starting to work on your goals in a healthy way. It’s important to remember that we must learn to pause and listen to our body, both spiritually and physically.
4. Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself who you want to be, what you want to do and what you want to have in life. Are you the person you want to be? Do you have and do all of the things you desire? Why do you want these things? If you don’t have or do them, what can you do to attain your goal? If you don’t know where you’re going in life, then this self-discovery exercise can help get you started in finding out how to get there.
5. Begin using positive affirmations. Many of us use more negative language than we realize. Identify and challenge your self-limiting beliefs. For example, if you’re afraid of speaking in public, don’t tell yourself, “I lack confidence when speaking in front of large groups.” Challenge this fear. Tell yourself, “I become confident and powerful when I speak in front of large groups.” It might sound silly, but you will eventually begin to convince yourself.
The road to self-discovery is a never-ending one, but it’s certainly the most rewarding. There are no challenges more important than pushing to learn about yourself and how to identify both your strengths and your weaknesses. Don’t stop searching at this list, because there are infinite ways that work for everyone. Just be patient, be accepting, and be willing to learn.